Parents are on this world with a mission, and that is to guide the process of children growing up and becoming the best men and women they could possibly be. It is, of course, every parent’s desire for his/her children to have a successful and happy life, but believe it or not, kids are facing some really challenging moments in their childhood which can affect on their further development, positively or negatively. That is why it is important to encourage and inspire your kids to be optimists, hardworking and curious. Sounds easy enough, right? Here is some basic guide (which you can and should adapt to each individual kid, according to his/her personality) on how to motivate your children to be successful.
Social Skills as a Road to Success
It should not be a surprise that happy and confident people are surrounded with good friends. If you read some business magazines and tips, you have probably noticed that one of the keys to a successful businessman/woman is communication or networking, but it is similar in private life too. Start nourishing those social skills early on, by creating chances for kids to play and learn with others. In that process, it is important to explain how precious the differences among people are and that they should respect them. Constantly teaching them (and showing with your own example) to be open-minded, respectful and willing to help others, will result in great odds for success.
Confidence Is the Foundation of It All
The “If you can believe it, you can achieve it” attitude is actually the key to a happy and inspiring childhood, and successful and prosperous adulthood. It is very important to be supportive and encouraging about your children’s hobbies and ideas – they might not always be the most genius idea ever, but they are those little things that will make your kids feel like superheroes. You should never put them down about some mistakes, instead, explain why some things are not good for them and you should express your pride and approval when they are doing something well.
There Is Something about Money and Hard Work
It is obvious to us that money does not grow on trees or fall from the sky, but kids, especially the very young ones have no way of knowing that. It is never too early to start introducing the notion of money, but you should never leave out the hard work from the equation. Also you should show (on your personal example) how to share possessions with others and how to help those less fortunate. It is very important to teach them about saving money too.
Giving Is Receiving
Too often we can see successful people who live in their own selfish realms, without thinking about those less fortunate. This form of success, however, does not mean happiness. It is important to teach your kids that by giving something to someone, they are not losing anything. Generous people are hard working, successful, happy, relaxed, have better relationships and they are more confident. There are plenty of kids’ books which teach this lesson, but you can show that on a practical example. Explain to your children that it would be nice to spend something on their allowance money to buy low cost baby clothing online and gift it to their younger family members, friends, or some families in the neighborhood with a new baby.
The Constant Self-Improvement
People are lifelong learners and they are nothing if they do not grow and evolve each day. This, however, should happen naturally and willingly, and the goals that children should reach should never be forced, but imagined and designed in their creative little minds, whit your help, of course. Dreaming big is important, but it is useless if they are not trying to reach those dreams, so do your best to encourage and inspire them to make that move.
It Is Ok to Fail
Why do we fall? To learn how to pick ourselves up. Sometimes things will not go as planned, and that is ok. It is impossible to succeed every time, but that is no reason to give up. Depending on the occasion, there are two roads to go – keep trying and change the plan (goal). Always express your pride and support during those difficult moments (for toddlers failing to assemble Legos can really be a hard time), and offer your help.
In the end, let your children discover the meaning of success on their own. Different people understand it differently – it can be a loving family, a great career or some matter of intellectual nature. In any case, it is a good thing, and a prerequisite for a happy life.