Category Archives: Relationships

The Benefits of Having an Athletic Significant Other

Relationships are such a wonderfully weird connection between two people. If you were to explain them in exact terms, you’d probably fail. And while the first words that come to mind are love, lust, commitment, soul-mates, and what not – the whole craze is so much more than that. Actually, relationships are that one obsession in our lives we always have trouble defining. And why? Simply because their immensity is bigger than any mold.  And that’s cute.

Two people spending a lot of time together will ultimately start rubbing their personal habits, styles, likes and dislikes off of each other, no doubt. Sometimes, this goes to the extreme where you both show up for your date night wearing the same denim shirt.  Other times, it all gets super cool – you start learning from each other and consequently get an intellectual, psychological, emotional and mental upgrade you didn’t even know you’d needed!
In addition, it is not uncommon for partners’ life habits to start mirroring each others’  – if you are dating an athlete, you’ll probably get hooked on working out; if you are dating a coach potato, you’ll probably end up 10 pounds heavier (at least!). Ahhh, love!

I was just talking to a friend the other day and she told me, and I quote “I am now dating this basketball player and it’s so amazing. I got hooked on working out. It’s like… other people go on dates – us? We go for a run!” I thought this was adorable! It honestly inspired me to think about beauties of partnership and list some of the perks that come from a relationship with a sporty guy!

Here we go:

  1. You get fitter

For most women, some extra weight in the hip, thigh or stomach area may pose as a real confidence buster. Having a boyfriend who is into sports will motivate you to stay in shape and work out with commitment! The good news? He fell in love with you even with the extra few pounds, so turn those workouts into fun sessions rather than ways to please your bae!

  1. The sex is awesome

Well, there’s no point in staying quiet on the matter when we are all thinking it! Guys who work out regularly are not only in amazing shape but they last longer in bed! Plus, they are more bendy and willing to try out new stuff. Just saying!

  1. You are genuinely happier

Sports is known to help stimulate serotonin and endorphin secretion; these substances are called neurotransmitters and they have a direct influence on your feelings of happiness or sadness. People who work out regularly are generally more happy, optimistic, enterprising and more loving in their relationships than pairs who don’t work out. These positive feelings are even stronger if you are working out with someone you are in love with!

  1. You have a personal trainer for free

It’s true! If your boyfriend is a sports fan he then probably knows all sorts of things to do to get leaner. Consult him for anything related to your workout and chances are he’ll be over the moon the help out. After all – this is his two favorite fields of interest merged in one big adventure – you and sports! An added bonus? You won’t have to pay for it!


Kate Flannery is an athletic Perthie with a boat. She likes the Mediterranean Sea, gourmet cuisines, and keeping up with NFL rumors and facts with her dude squad. She is a member of the HighStyleLife crew, and a dog person.

Things to Do Before the Big Yes

There comes a point in our lives where we (well, all right, some of us) eventually have to say goodbye to our fun old bachelor/ette ways and say hello to the brave new world of marriage. We have to use the time we have in the best possible way before we step into this commitment, so that we may be well prepared, and more importantly, honest in our intentions. We are not talking about the things all the boys and girls should do to settle those teenagers within before they say “I do”. No, the things we will discuss are things long-term couples should do together to strengthen their relationship and step into marriage without any doubt, as two souls entwined, not as strangers.


And by the “huge fight” we don’t mean passionate disputes over whose favourite team is better. We mean that dramatic make it or break it fight. If you can handle this stressful event horizon, if you walk through the storm together, you can bet you’ll deal with anything else that comes your way. No matter how ideal your relationship looks, life will throw some nasty curve balls at you and knowing how to dodge and save your partner can save your marriage eventually.

Live together

This way you will be more accustomed to the new situation and make the whole transition seamless. Once your partner starts spending time at your apartment, it’ll take no more than a few sleepovers to until you start sharing a life; consciously or not. Although it might raise some brows in prudish environments, pre-marital joint living is the most beneficial experience for lovers young and old to discover and fall in love with their partner’s little flaws.

Travel together

Once you start living together it would be nice to leave the comfort zone of your apartment and usual social circles and travel abroad, be it for some exciting match, or a more elaborate vacation. This way, aside from the sheer satisfaction you get from life on the road, you will see how your partner faces unpredicted situations and how compatible a couple you actually are, even out of your zone.

Have an honest talk about the birds and bees

There is no way around it, what happens in bed is probably the second most important thing in any relationship and that’s the reason why absolute honesty regarding intercourse is much needed. Talk with your partner about what pleases him, mutually agree on some kind of contraception. Decide if, and when being a parent should become a part of your lives. Avoiding these important topics will only create unnecessary tension between you.


Buy a pet

It is nothing like having a kid, but it is a step in the right direction. Taking care of a living being and sharing that commitment with all of its hardships with the person you love will create a strong bond between you, and prepare you for the sleepless nights of parenthood in the best possible way, without actually including tiny human beings. Sharing a common responsibility and knowing how to work as a team is always a good sign of a strong and stable relationship.

As you can see, there is nothing new here. Just the usual couple stuff. Simply, enjoy your partner and use those precious moments together, and a Happily Ever After will deservedly come to you, too.

6 Great Tips To Make Long-Distance Relationships Work

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” Helen Keller

Distance makes the heart grow fonder. It’s a common saying, but for those in a long-distance relationship sometimes the distance can be difficult to handle. The want to spend time with your partner can become so intense the entire ordeal feels impossible.

However, long distance love is possible, it just takes a little extra work and attention to make it enjoyable. Here are a few great tips for creating the best atmosphere possible in order to make your long-distance romance blossom.

1. Communication

In any relationship communication is number one, but in a long-distance relationship it becomes the primary goal. Being able to talk and interact with your partner becomes the biggest thing you look forward to every day.

Fortunately modern technology makes it all a lot easier. Skype and FaceTime are popular tools for interaction for a reason. Studies show that long-distance couples who talk as often as they can have a much higher chance of succeeding, and being able to see your partner boosts those odds even further.

Of course, friendly and romantic chatting isn’t the only communication we’re talking about. A long-distance relationship is going to be difficult on the both of you. It’s a good idea to have an occasional conversation about your feelings towards the relationship itself. This can help to eliminate jealousy and allows you to feel closer to your significant other.

2. Spend Time Together

This might sound weird considering we are talking about distance but, again, technology is a huge advantage.

Look into playing a 2-player game online while you Skype, since this gives something to do and sparks some friendly competition.

Movies are also an option as long as you both have Netflix or some other platform. Pick a movie and watch it at the same time and chat about it as it goes.

Think of these mutual activities as a date night, and make time in your schedule for them.

3. Trust

A good relationship is one based on trust, and that absolutely includes a long-distance one. Unfortunately, time away from your partner can cause time for you to think about “what if”s. It’s important that you don’t let these thoughts consume you. Ask yourself a few questions:

* Are they (he/she) speaking to me when they can?

* Do they try their best to show they care about me?

* Is our relationship a clear priority for them?

* Am I just over-thinking things?

* Would I be upset about this in a traditional relationship?

Asking and answering these questions can help to put your feelings in perspective, and depending on the answers it can justify your thinking or help you to realize that you might be overreacting. Remember though, a lot of times there is actual hurt and pain behind the way you feel, and even if your partner isn’t cheating or ignoring you, tell them that you’re feeling a need to reconnect.

Fights will happen, there’s just no avoiding them. It’s important in a long-distance relationship to realize what you’re upset about. A lot of the time couples experiencing long-distance aren’t mad at each other, but are tired of missing each other. Instead of fighting, communicate those feelings. It’s not effective to take your anger out on the person who’s going through it with you.

4. Send A Care Package

Many long-distance couples fend off loneliness by sending each other care packages. Bring out your inner romantic by writing love letters, or fill a package with little things you know will make your partner smile.

Send something that’s your favorite color, something that smells like you, a mix CD or play list you made, their favorite candy or food, and a piece of your clothing or a stuffed animal that makes them think of you. Each one is romantic and personal and will really bring a smile to their face.

5. Keep Each Other Interested

Some people in long-distance relationships find it really difficult not being able to touch their partner. Kissing, hugging, and intimacy are very important aspects to a relationship and simply can’t be ignored.

If you’re looking to spice things up on your next internet date try wearing something special. Provocative costumes are always a popular choice to get your man’s mind running wild, and it will really give him some motivation to come see you when he can.

Both partners can spend time working on their flirty texting skills in order to get the other looking forward to some alone time together.

6. Look On The Bright Side

A long-distance relationship isn’t impossible, and it can be incredibly fulfilling when you do see each other again. You and your partner will really have a chance to talk and learn about each other during this hard period.

As long as you are confident in each other it’s sure to work out in the end. Stay positive about your relationship and remind yourself why you’re doing this. It will all be worth it one day, and in the meantime try to make the best of what you’ve got.