All posts by Kate Flannery

Kate Flannery is a Perthie boater currently sailing the Mediterranean Sea, in search of better cuisines. After graduating from linguistics, she found herself in the world of blogging, and is now a proud member of the HighStyleLife crew. Kate promotes green living and active lifestyles.

Coping With Living Alone

Starting a life on your own can be a stepping stone in your life. Nevertheless, this experience can sometimes fall really hard on people. Many people experience fear, insecurity, doubt and similar feelings when on their own for the first time. It is important to keep in mind that all of this is quite normal and that we all hurt sometimes. Getting thrown out of your comfort zone is certainly not a pleasant emotion, but we are here to help you cope with this transition. Sit back, relax and keep reading.








Love Yourself

Even though it might sound cliché, it is actually a very important part of coping. This does not necessarily mean forcing yourself to see every part of you as perfect, because none of us are perfect, and all of us have strengths and weaknesses. You should, however, learn to enjoy your own company. When you reach a point where you feel comfortable spending the evening alone, you will reach a new level of maturity. This is not an easy transition, especially if you are used to living with someone – your family, a roommate, a friend. We look for entertainment in social circles, validation for our enjoyment from others, and living alone – you are doomed to spend days in just your own company.







Just remember not to be like me last year, don’t spend a week without talking to a human being. Be like me this year, and organize pyjama and nailpolish parties for your adult friends – boys, girls and cupcakes! Organize even snazzier fancy parties just for yourself. Buy a toy crown and wear it around the house, you will literally feel the power of adulthood pour out of you, it’s great and you should totally do it.







You are given the opportunity to entertain at your own time, to the sound of your own drum. And no matter how switching to solitude (most of the time) can scare you, it is important to keep an open mind and learn to appreciate yourself more. It won’t be long before you decide one-person dance parties are preferable to a night of unbearable clubbing!


The next thing you need to learn is to value your freedom. It is really important to look at this as a positive change. At first, you might have a difficult time adjusting to an empty house and you might experience loneliness (word of advice, do not move into a large empty house by yourself. It is bad for your psyche, and it is bad for cleaning days. It is worst around Halloween). Shortly after, you will learn to value your freedom. This means that you will finally have the ability to do whatever pleases you without worrying if that will bother somebody else or if others will agree. This is a great opportunity to learn more about yourself. You will become the one and only owner of the remote control.




Perhaps one of the most valuable things that you will learn when you move into your new home is, of course, how it feels to be independent. Although this might come as a shock, overwhelming at times, you will learn to go with the flow and love it! Sure, paying bills, cooking for one, and doing your own laundry are just some of the things that you will need to learn in order to support yourself. Fortunately, nowadays, with internet and technology, even simple chores can be managed more easily. Taking care of yourself will never be a breeze, but millenials will prefer paying rents through apps. Cleaning up is a drag, but if you make like Freddy Mercury and make it a musical about your young-adult angst, you’ll do better. You know you’re an adult when your list of Youtube tutorials expands from contouring tutorials to plumbing hacks!

Adapting to new changes can be quite difficult for some people. Moving away to live on your own should serve as a great learning experience. You may have learned a lot about life up to this point, but a month of solitary habitation will truly make you a force to be reckoned with in the wild world outside. Learn to make the best of every situation and you will learn that moving away is probably one of the best things you’ve done for yourself. Just keep in mind that living on your own does not mean losing contact with all your loved ones – your friends and family will always be just a phone call away, and remember to make those calls!

The Benefits of Having an Athletic Significant Other

Relationships are such a wonderfully weird connection between two people. If you were to explain them in exact terms, you’d probably fail. And while the first words that come to mind are love, lust, commitment, soul-mates, and what not – the whole craze is so much more than that. Actually, relationships are that one obsession in our lives we always have trouble defining. And why? Simply because their immensity is bigger than any mold.  And that’s cute.

Two people spending a lot of time together will ultimately start rubbing their personal habits, styles, likes and dislikes off of each other, no doubt. Sometimes, this goes to the extreme where you both show up for your date night wearing the same denim shirt.  Other times, it all gets super cool – you start learning from each other and consequently get an intellectual, psychological, emotional and mental upgrade you didn’t even know you’d needed!
In addition, it is not uncommon for partners’ life habits to start mirroring each others’  – if you are dating an athlete, you’ll probably get hooked on working out; if you are dating a coach potato, you’ll probably end up 10 pounds heavier (at least!). Ahhh, love!

I was just talking to a friend the other day and she told me, and I quote “I am now dating this basketball player and it’s so amazing. I got hooked on working out. It’s like… other people go on dates – us? We go for a run!” I thought this was adorable! It honestly inspired me to think about beauties of partnership and list some of the perks that come from a relationship with a sporty guy!

Here we go:

  1. You get fitter

For most women, some extra weight in the hip, thigh or stomach area may pose as a real confidence buster. Having a boyfriend who is into sports will motivate you to stay in shape and work out with commitment! The good news? He fell in love with you even with the extra few pounds, so turn those workouts into fun sessions rather than ways to please your bae!

  1. The sex is awesome

Well, there’s no point in staying quiet on the matter when we are all thinking it! Guys who work out regularly are not only in amazing shape but they last longer in bed! Plus, they are more bendy and willing to try out new stuff. Just saying!

  1. You are genuinely happier

Sports is known to help stimulate serotonin and endorphin secretion; these substances are called neurotransmitters and they have a direct influence on your feelings of happiness or sadness. People who work out regularly are generally more happy, optimistic, enterprising and more loving in their relationships than pairs who don’t work out. These positive feelings are even stronger if you are working out with someone you are in love with!

  1. You have a personal trainer for free

It’s true! If your boyfriend is a sports fan he then probably knows all sorts of things to do to get leaner. Consult him for anything related to your workout and chances are he’ll be over the moon the help out. After all – this is his two favorite fields of interest merged in one big adventure – you and sports! An added bonus? You won’t have to pay for it!


Kate Flannery is an athletic Perthie with a boat. She likes the Mediterranean Sea, gourmet cuisines, and keeping up with NFL rumors and facts with her dude squad. She is a member of the HighStyleLife crew, and a dog person.

Things to Do Before the Big Yes

There comes a point in our lives where we (well, all right, some of us) eventually have to say goodbye to our fun old bachelor/ette ways and say hello to the brave new world of marriage. We have to use the time we have in the best possible way before we step into this commitment, so that we may be well prepared, and more importantly, honest in our intentions. We are not talking about the things all the boys and girls should do to settle those teenagers within before they say “I do”. No, the things we will discuss are things long-term couples should do together to strengthen their relationship and step into marriage without any doubt, as two souls entwined, not as strangers.


And by the “huge fight” we don’t mean passionate disputes over whose favourite team is better. We mean that dramatic make it or break it fight. If you can handle this stressful event horizon, if you walk through the storm together, you can bet you’ll deal with anything else that comes your way. No matter how ideal your relationship looks, life will throw some nasty curve balls at you and knowing how to dodge and save your partner can save your marriage eventually.

Live together

This way you will be more accustomed to the new situation and make the whole transition seamless. Once your partner starts spending time at your apartment, it’ll take no more than a few sleepovers to until you start sharing a life; consciously or not. Although it might raise some brows in prudish environments, pre-marital joint living is the most beneficial experience for lovers young and old to discover and fall in love with their partner’s little flaws.

Travel together

Once you start living together it would be nice to leave the comfort zone of your apartment and usual social circles and travel abroad, be it for some exciting match, or a more elaborate vacation. This way, aside from the sheer satisfaction you get from life on the road, you will see how your partner faces unpredicted situations and how compatible a couple you actually are, even out of your zone.

Have an honest talk about the birds and bees

There is no way around it, what happens in bed is probably the second most important thing in any relationship and that’s the reason why absolute honesty regarding intercourse is much needed. Talk with your partner about what pleases him, mutually agree on some kind of contraception. Decide if, and when being a parent should become a part of your lives. Avoiding these important topics will only create unnecessary tension between you.


Buy a pet

It is nothing like having a kid, but it is a step in the right direction. Taking care of a living being and sharing that commitment with all of its hardships with the person you love will create a strong bond between you, and prepare you for the sleepless nights of parenthood in the best possible way, without actually including tiny human beings. Sharing a common responsibility and knowing how to work as a team is always a good sign of a strong and stable relationship.

As you can see, there is nothing new here. Just the usual couple stuff. Simply, enjoy your partner and use those precious moments together, and a Happily Ever After will deservedly come to you, too.