“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.” Helen Keller
Distance makes the heart grow fonder. It’s a common saying, but for those in a long-distance relationship sometimes the distance can be difficult to handle. The want to spend time with your partner can become so intense the entire ordeal feels impossible.
However, long distance love is possible, it just takes a little extra work and attention to make it enjoyable. Here are a few great tips for creating the best atmosphere possible in order to make your long-distance romance blossom.
In any relationship communication is number one, but in a long-distance relationship it becomes the primary goal. Being able to talk and interact with your partner becomes the biggest thing you look forward to every day.
Fortunately modern technology makes it all a lot easier. Skype and FaceTime are popular tools for interaction for a reason. Studies show that long-distance couples who talk as often as they can have a much higher chance of succeeding, and being able to see your partner boosts those odds even further.
Of course, friendly and romantic chatting isn’t the only communication we’re talking about. A long-distance relationship is going to be difficult on the both of you. It’s a good idea to have an occasional conversation about your feelings towards the relationship itself. This can help to eliminate jealousy and allows you to feel closer to your significant other.
2. Spend Time Together
This might sound weird considering we are talking about distance but, again, technology is a huge advantage.
Look into playing a 2-player game online while you Skype, since this gives something to do and sparks some friendly competition.
Movies are also an option as long as you both have Netflix or some other platform. Pick a movie and watch it at the same time and chat about it as it goes.
Think of these mutual activities as a date night, and make time in your schedule for them.
A good relationship is one based on trust, and that absolutely includes a long-distance one. Unfortunately, time away from your partner can cause time for you to think about “what if”s. It’s important that you don’t let these thoughts consume you. Ask yourself a few questions:
* Are they (he/she) speaking to me when they can?
* Do they try their best to show they care about me?
* Is our relationship a clear priority for them?
* Am I just over-thinking things?
* Would I be upset about this in a traditional relationship?
Asking and answering these questions can help to put your feelings in perspective, and depending on the answers it can justify your thinking or help you to realize that you might be overreacting. Remember though, a lot of times there is actual hurt and pain behind the way you feel, and even if your partner isn’t cheating or ignoring you, tell them that you’re feeling a need to reconnect.
Fights will happen, there’s just no avoiding them. It’s important in a long-distance relationship to realize what you’re upset about. A lot of the time couples experiencing long-distance aren’t mad at each other, but are tired of missing each other. Instead of fighting, communicate those feelings. It’s not effective to take your anger out on the person who’s going through it with you.
4. Send A Care Package
Many long-distance couples fend off loneliness by sending each other care packages. Bring out your inner romantic by writing love letters, or fill a package with little things you know will make your partner smile.
Send something that’s your favorite color, something that smells like you, a mix CD or play list you made, their favorite candy or food, and a piece of your clothing or a stuffed animal that makes them think of you. Each one is romantic and personal and will really bring a smile to their face.
5. Keep Each Other Interested
Some people in long-distance relationships find it really difficult not being able to touch their partner. Kissing, hugging, and intimacy are very important aspects to a relationship and simply can’t be ignored.
If you’re looking to spice things up on your next internet date try wearing something special. Provocative costumes are always a popular choice to get your man’s mind running wild, and it will really give him some motivation to come see you when he can.
Both partners can spend time working on their flirty texting skills in order to get the other looking forward to some alone time together.
6. Look On The Bright Side
A long-distance relationship isn’t impossible, and it can be incredibly fulfilling when you do see each other again. You and your partner will really have a chance to talk and learn about each other during this hard period.
As long as you are confident in each other it’s sure to work out in the end. Stay positive about your relationship and remind yourself why you’re doing this. It will all be worth it one day, and in the meantime try to make the best of what you’ve got.